In raising children, you need to use not only the “stick”, but also the “carrot”.
The main thing is not to overdo it with that “carrot”: an excess of rewards can have a negative impact on the development of a child’s personality.
Overpraised children often become capricious, selfish and infantile.
For some parents, encouragement and material reward are absolute synonyms. But don’t rush to “buy” your child’s obedience for money.
Instead, try other methods - they will help you avoid parenting mistakes.
1. Sometimes moms and dads can limit themselves to the usual praise - if a child behaves well, they can praise him with words, approve of his actions, express support.
2. Don't forget about affection - sometimes kisses, hugs, gentle strokes are much more important and effective than ordinary words. This form of encouragement is usually used when it comes to babies.
3. Extra time for joint entertainment or games can be a motivating reward.
Perhaps you yourself have repeatedly promised your little one to go to the playground after she tidies up her room.
4. As for older children, adults can expand their rights and remove restrictions on certain actions.
If a child behaves well, helps adults, or brings home good grades from school, he can go to bed half an hour or an hour later.
5. Finally, you can motivate children to do good deeds with toys, sweets and other rewards.
The main thing is to be careful that the child does not start demanding material reward for every action performed.
Author: Elena Shimanovskaya