“Let him do whatever he wants, as long as he doesn’t yell!” – this phrase can be heard in every store, park or cafe.
Parents, tired of the struggle, give in, allowing their child to eat candy for breakfast or watch cartoons until late at night.
But after a couple of years, they encounter a monster who screams if he is denied a new toy and hits his mother when she turns off the tablet.
The secret is that children don't need permissiveness, but clear boundaries. They are like the walls of a room - they create a sense of security.
If a child is used to the fact that rules can be broken by hysteria, he will test them again and again, losing trust in adults.
Try the "Choice Without Choice" method: instead of "Put on the hat!" say "Do you want to wear the blue hat or the red hat?"
The child feels in control, and you get what you want. And if the hysteria has already begun, use the "three-minute rule": sit silently next to him, without entering into negotiations.B
Most scandals die down when there are no spectators.
Author: Valeria Kisternaya