Every night, millions of couples go to bed confident that their rituals are just part of their routine.
But what if these very habits are quietly turning into ticking bombs beneath your union?
Imagine: you turn on a TV series, scroll through your social media feed, or discuss who forgot to take out the trash. It seems like nothing to worry about.
However, psychological research shows that such scenarios often create an emotional gap between partners.
Take gadgets, for example. Many couples spend the last minutes before bed staring at screens, thinking that it helps them relax.
But in reality, this deprives them of the only moment when they can have a heart-to-heart talk without rushing.
Instead of sharing impressions of the day or simply hugging, partners immerse themselves in a virtual world where there is no place for sincerity.
Over time, this leads to a feeling of loneliness together: you are close, but mentally you are in different universes.
Another “silent killer” of relationships is domestic arguments before bed.
Discussing financial expenses, home improvement plans, or child rearing late at night is a bad idea. Fatigue reduces the ability to empathize, and even minor disagreements risk escalating into a quarrel.
The brain, overloaded during the day, is not ready for compromises, so instead of solving the problem, you get mutual reproaches and a cold pillow between you.
What to do? Try creating an "evening code." Set aside 20 minutes to talk without phones or TV.
Ask each other, “What made you happy today?” or “How could I support you tomorrow?” It doesn’t take much time, but it helps restore emotional closeness.
And leave controversial topics for the morning, when you've both had a good night's sleep and can think more clearly. Sometimes saving a relationship is easier than it seems - just stop doing what's slowly ruining it.
Author: Igor Zur