"Ignore him for three days and he will be yours," advise pickup gurus.
But former manipulators admit that such techniques only work for short-term relationships.
For example, Alexey, who spent years training men to "seduce and dump," now warns: "If you play the silent game, he'll perceive it as weakness. Real interest is not indifference, but unpredictability."
How does it work? Instead of ignoring completely, use the "mirror principle".
Reply to his messages with the same delay and energy.
If he writes once a day, don't bombard him with ten replies. This will create intrigue: "She's busy, but she's not ignoring you."
Example: After a week of “mirror” responses, Katya received an offer to meet.
"Before, I would smother him with attention - he would run away. Now he initiates communication himself."
But the main secret is balance. Psychologists emphasize: manipulation destroys trust.
If a partner needs games to stay, it's not love, it's addiction. Healthy relationships are built on sincerity.
Say, "I enjoy spending time with you, but I have things to do."
If he values you, he will accept it. If he disappears, you have lost nothing.
Author: Elena Shimanovskaya