Love shouldn't be a struggle for survival.
If you feel drained instead of supported after a conversation with your partner, it's time to ask yourself, "Is this toxic?"
Mistakes of lovers
Many people confuse passion with emotional swings, and care with control. For example, jealousy is presented as an "expression of love," although in reality it is fear and disrespect for personal boundaries.
The main sign of toxicity is that you stop recognizing yourself. You used to love meeting with friends, but now you're afraid to even mention it, so as not to cause a scandal?
Or you constantly justify your partner’s behavior: “He loves me, he just has a difficult character.” This is a trap.
Healthy relationships give strength, not take it away.
Another red flag is double standards.
You can't be late, but your partner regularly stays late without warning.
You are criticized for your mistakes, but they do not admit their own. This is not love, but a one-sided game.
It is also dangerous if conflicts are never resolved. You make peace "for the sake of peace", but the grievances remain, turning into a snowball that will one day cover both of you.
What to do
Start with self-analysis. Make a list: what has changed in you since the beginning of the relationship? If there are more minuses than pluses, this is a signal.
Try to talk to your partner, but be prepared that toxic people rarely admit their guilt.
They can turn the conversation around: “It’s your own fault” or “You’re too sensitive.”
In this case, it’s worth considering: are you ready to live in constant stress?
Sometimes the only way to save yourself is to leave in time.
Author: Igor Zur