Have you noticed that your phone has become the third person in your relationship?
Don't rush to brush it off - perhaps it is he who is quietly displacing emotional closeness.
We are used to thinking that texting and calling help us stay in touch, but more and more often they turn into a wall between two people.
Imagine you're sitting down to dinner, but instead of talking about your day, you're both scrolling through your social media feed.
Or worse, sending each other memes instead of discussing important issues. It seems harmless, but it’s these little things that build up resentment over the years.
Research shows that partners who spend more time in digital spaces than in real-life dialogue are more likely to experience feelings of loneliness.
The problem is not the messages themselves, but that they replace live communication.
When you text "goodnight" instead of turning around and hugging, or send an emoji instead of words of encouragement, the emotion becomes flat.
The brain perceives this format as a formality, not a manifestation of care. Gradually, this kills trust - you stop feeling that your partner is really "here and now."
How to fix this? Start small. Put away your gadgets for an hour before bed and talk about something that worries you. Don’t be afraid of awkward silences — they’re natural.
Try agreeing on a “digital detox”: set aside days when you turn off notifications completely and focus on each other.
This doesn't mean you should give up texting altogether, but it's important to get the balance back. Remember: love lives in moments that can't be contained within a screen.
Author: Igor Zur