Do you think that happily married people are just “lucky” with their partner? Forget it.
The main secret is not in romance or compatibility, but in what they don’t talk about in trainings.
This is something so simple that many ignore it, preferring to look for complex formulas.
But the answer lies on the surface - it is enough to stop fighting for what is right and start... playing.
First, remember: marriage is not a competition. Couples who have been intimate for years have learned to turn conflicts into jokes, not wars.
Instead of harboring grudges over strewn socks or unwashed dishes, they find the absurdity in everyday trivialities. Laughter relieves tension, reminding you that you are still a team, not adversaries.
Another detail is rituals that seem ridiculous from the outside. For example, a silly song before breakfast or an obligatory dance in the rain. These little things create a “language” that only two people understand and strengthen the bond.
It is impossible not to mention the ability to "switch off" the adult mode. Happy couples allow themselves to be silly, naive, spontaneous.
They are not afraid to look ridiculous because they trust each other.
And they also know how to be silent. Not in the sense of hushing up problems, but giving the partner space for a bad mood, fatigue, or silence.
Sometimes the best support is just being there, without advice or moralizing.
But the main secret is still in one word: "thank you." Gratitude for the fact that he washed the cup, for the fact that she bought his favorite candies, for the fact that you survived another day together.
These micro-confessions prevent the "feeling of habit" from killing love. You stop taking each other for granted, which means you don't lose the ability to appreciate.
Author: Kurchev Anton