Imagine: you never argue, slam doors or raise your voice.
It seems like paradise? In reality, it's a time bomb.
The absence of conflicts in relationships does not make them stronger, but turns them into a facade behind which unspoken grievances, misunderstandings and... boredom accumulate.
Scientists are sounding the alarm: couples who avoid disagreements risk waking up as strangers one day, even if they have slept on the same pillow for decades.
Here's the bitter truth: without conflict, you will never know what is sacred to your partner.
That forgotten bag of trash is not laziness, but a signal. Maybe he doesn’t see it as a gesture of care? Or are you silently waiting for him to “guess” your need for respect?
As long as you suppress your emotions, your true motives remain locked away and your relationships remain in the realm of illusion.
Remember: a fight over a dirty cup often masks a cry from the soul: "Look at me! Understand that I'm in pain!"
Silence also kills passion. Partners who don't butt heads stop growing. They get stuck in the roles of "convenient person" and "eternal diplomat", losing the excitement of getting to know each other again.
Psychologists confirm: couples who regularly sort out their relationships (but do not resort to rudeness!) have 3 times more chances for a long-term union.
After all, it is only through conflict that the realization comes: “He doesn’t agree with me, but he’s trying to understand – that means we are important to each other.”
The most dangerous scenario? When one of you silently outgrows the relationship.
You are changing, but you are afraid to say: "The old rules don't suit me anymore." Instead of an honest conversation - a smile and "everything is fine", until so much anger accumulates inside that it is enough for a divorce with the burning of the shared sofa.
Don't let the illusion of harmony steal your love: sometimes a cup broken in an argument saves more than a thousand perfectly washed plates.
After all, it is only through the cracks that the light of true closeness penetrates into our world.
Author: Elena Shimanovskaya