Do you envy those who post joint photos on social networks with the hashtag #loveforever? Stop it.
Behind the glossy facade there are often hidden quarrels, tears and misunderstandings that no one writes about.
“Ideal” couples are not those who have no problems, but those who have learned to masterfully hide them.
But why? Fear of being judged, the desire to live up to other people’s expectations, or the fear of admitting that the relationship is far from a fairy tale…
First, it is worth mentioning that public displays of happiness often become a means of self-persuasion.
If a couple constantly proves to others that “everything is perfect” for them, this may be an attempt to drown out their inner doubts. The louder they shout about love, the quieter their unspoken complaints sound.
Another trap is comparing yourself to others. When you see someone else's "ideal", you don't know how many compromises, concessions and silent resentments are behind it.
It is impossible not to note that hushing up conflicts is a time bomb. Couples who avoid quarrels for the sake of preserving their image accumulate grievances that will one day make themselves known.
Instead of solving problems, they learn to wear masks, and over time they even forget where the role ends and reality begins.
Add to this the pressure of social standards: “true love should be easy”, “if you quarrel, it means you are not right for each other”. These myths make people feel ashamed of their emotions and hide them behind smiles.
But how can you tell a healthy relationship from a toxic illusion? Pay attention to the details. If a couple never argues in front of others, this is not a sign of harmony, but a signal of fear.
If their stories are too "smooth" without mentioning the difficulties, they may simply be afraid to be vulnerable.
True intimacy is not born from perfect shots, but from the ability to talk about unpleasant things, ask for help and accept the other person without embellishment.
Stop chasing the ideal - start appreciating sincerity, even if it doesn’t fit into the framework of social networks.
Author: Kurchev Anton