Have you ever wondered why some people achieve their goals easily, while others stagnate for years despite all their efforts?
The answer lies in the “contracts” our brain makes with reality.
For example, you decide to start running in the morning, but after a week you find a dozen reasons to stay in bed.
It's not laziness - it's a subconscious mindset that protects you from discomfort. The brain loves stability, even if it's toxic.
He is ready to exchange your ambitions for the illusion of security, like a merchant exchanging gold for glass.
The first thing to understand is that attitudes are formed through repetition. If you repeat for years, “I have no talent for languages,” your brain believes it and blocks your attempts to learn.
But this trap can be broken. Start small - replace one negative phrase with a neutral one.
Instead of “I can’t,” say “I can’t do it yet, but I’m trying.” Over time, the brain will stop perceiving the task as a threat and will start looking for solutions.
Another enemy of progress is the “all or nothing” syndrome. We often give up on things because we don’t see immediate results, or we scold ourselves for minor mistakes.
Try the "minimal action" method. Want to write a book? Write one paragraph a day. Dreaming of healthy eating?
Replace one unhealthy snack with a piece of fruit. These micro-steps don’t scare the brain, but create a chain of successes that rebuilds the mindset from “I’m a loser” to “I can handle it.”
Pay attention to your internal dialogue. If you constantly compare yourself to others, your brain gets the message: “you’re not good enough,” and your motivation fades.
Shift your focus to your own progress. Start a diary where you can mark even tiny victories: “I read 10 pages today,” “I made a call I’ve been putting off.”
Over time, you will notice that you are moving forward, albeit slowly, but without strain.
Lastly, create an “anchor” for your new beliefs. For example, if you want to become more confident, create a ritual that reminds you of your goal.
Every morning, when you look in the mirror, say, “Today I choose courage.” This isn’t magic—it’s a signal to your brain that it’s time to stop clinging to old fears.
Author: Igor Zur